A Real Man Leads
God tells us in 1 Corinthians 11:3 that, ” Now I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man.” This is not telling us that men own women or are better than woman. As with any scripture you must put it context of the whole. In Genesis 1 we see, “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.” Again in 1 Corinthians 11:11 we see that “women are not independent of man nor man of women.” So we are equal and interdependent so what does God mean when He calls man the “head”? Well for that we look to the other use of head in the passage, “Christ is the head of man,” now for this we have other uses in the Bible to refer to. Paul tells us that “Christ is the head of the church (Eph 1:22)” and He is the “head of all rule and authority (Col 2:10). So as Christ is in authority (in leadership) over the church, so men are expected to lead in their home (Eph 5) and in the church (2 Tim 3). Now that we know we are called to lead the next question we must ask is HOW? Well there are four key “how’s” that we can look at to help us understand.
The first and most important is we lead through the power of Holy Spirit. Jesus tells us that He sends us His Spirit to be our “Helper”. Interestingly this is the same term used in the Bible for women, so women have no reason to feel degraded because men were called to lead. Now we are told that the Holy Spirit will “lead us in all truth” (John 16:13), which means if we seek God as we lead He will never lead us astray. This means Godly men can lead well.
When we lead, we should lead wisely. Christ tells us that He is “sending us out as sheep in the midst of wolves, so be wise.” How do we get this wisdom? Well both Psalms and Proverbs tell us that the starting point is “Fear of the Lord (Psalms 111:10, Proverbs 1:7).” So how do we learn to “Fear of the Lord”? The writer of Proverbs tells that as well in chapter 2, “the Lord gives wisdom;
From his mouth come knowledge and understanding.” God has given us easy access to this wisdom through the Bible, His Word. As well He has given us the Holy Spirit who will teach us all things and help us to remember what we have been taught (John 14:26). Lean on the Lord read His Word and then you will be able to lead with wisdom.
Next we are to lead with humility. If you truly believe the first two this one should be easier; I mean if God is leading you and teaching you who are you to act as you are anything more than a vessel through which God is working? Jesus tells us if we wish to be great (leader) we should act like a servant (Matt 20:26-27). This means we need to lead with an attitude of unselfishness and an absence of pride (conceit). Treat those we lead as more important than ourselves.
Lastly with the Holy Spirit leading and teaching us we should lead courageously. Courage is the ability to do something that frightens you or stand up for something despite opposition (criticism). Fortunately for us “God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self- control.” So in trust, we can and should stand up courageously for Truth because “if God is for us who can be against us.”
God tells us as men to lead, so don’t try and convince yourself that there is someone else that should step up or that you are not good enough. Remember, God’s grace is sufficient (enough) and His strength is perfect in our weakness (2 Cor 12:9). Stand up and be counted today in whatever you feel called to, trust His Spirit, seek wisdom, be humble and God will blow your mind with what he can do with someone like you.