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Firstly, there is never an excuse for rudeness no matter how old or young you are. The reality is that we as humans, for whatever reason, often seem to forget what we were like at previous ages. This can be true of Grade 12s, College students, adults, etc; it doesn’t seem to matter how old we are this can be an issue. This issue should never end in rudeness.
Secondly, some older people are rude because they feel superior because they are older. This again is no excuse to be rude, and on top of that it’s not even true (especially if it’s causing you to be rude). Age does not guarantee maturity, wisdom, intelligence, etc. Truthfully those that are really mature and wise would not resort to rudeness in the first place, so rude older students are showing their lack of these things.
The best thing you can do is advise an adult you trust about who is being rude to you and try your best not to be rude in return, because if you are rude in return you are no better than they are.
First I would say it depends on how often this happens; if you feel this way only sometimes then you are likely in the category of most people. I think we all feel like reality can’t be real sometimes or deal with dreams that feel sometimes more real than reality. If this is something that you feel all the time then I would recommend talking with someone you trust or a counselor to figure out the why behind this feeling. The reason I started with the above is I wanted to clarify some of the different possibilities that you or others could be going through. I will try to expound on these and hopefully I will cover or at least give a sense of what you can do.
Most of us, I believe, deal, at some point, with a feeling that reality isn’t really real. Now for many who are Christians this feeling can be a beginning realization that we as human were made to live forever, that when our bodies die our spirits will continue on in heaven in the true reality. Many who are into the concept of enlightenment and thing of that ilk also often deal with the same feeling because they believe that there is some higher plane that is the “truer reality.” Then there is the time when something happens or is discovered that seems to defy reality that can lead to feelings of being in a dream, that it can’t really be real. If this is what you are feeling than, don’t worry you are part of the majority or “normal”.
The second major group I think is the people disillusioned about life. Whether their life hasn’t gone the way they planned or their life is one disaster after another and reality has become something to be rejected or disbelieved. If this is where you are you are not alone. Many people experience this sometimes and some almost live in this. The only answer I know of is God, the knowledge that God loved us enough to die on the cross to save you for a much better reality to come. Our time here is like a drop in the bucket compared to eternity. The life we live here without God is a bleak, sin corrupted disaster, as someone once said, “life sucks and then you die.” I as a Christian know that life, without God, sucks, but being a Christian I know that I have a God who loves me and because I love Him I seek to make my little piece of the world a little bit better. So if you are disillusioned with life, seek God, ask Him to help you to see the world as He sees it; with love. Also seek to find something you are good at and/or something you enjoy.
Lastly comes a group of people who suffer what is generally labelled depersonalization. This is a group that suffers with a feeling being separate from the world and their own body. People often say that no matter how hard they try, they don't feel like they can interact with the world around them. They feel a sense of detachment from their surroundings, finding it hard to talk and connect with others. Also they feel no love for the people closest to them and even question if they did a certain task or had a particular conversation. The most upsetting thing is they lose a sense of who they are and can't seem to perceive themselves as being normal. If you feel this is you, talk to your parents or pastor or even a teacher and get help. There is always counselling available and getting counselling does not say anything about you other than that you were smart enough to seek help. If you think you need this and are willing I can help you talk to your parents, find counselling, etc. We all need help in one way or another and the only wrong decision we can make is to choose not to get the help we need.
I hope I have answered your question. Seek God and seek help from people you can trust.
Firstly, and most simply, you would want to pray and figure out why that ambition is lost. If you have lost your desire to achieve something there are many possibilities as to why. For example, if it is something that we are required to do we sometimes just feel the desire to rebel against being force to do something or we don’t really have a passion for it and so get frustrated with having to do it. If this is your situation it can be hard, because it’s something you are required to do. What I would recommend is prayer and lots of it, and try to focus on doing it for the Lord, not for whomever you have to do it for. If it is not something required of you, then spend some time considering (and praying, lots of prayer is always a good idea) if this is really something you want to do, something you are passionate about, if it’s not then spend time finding something that you are passionate about. We all have something, though we sometimes have to work to find it.
Then there is the possibility that it is something you are passionate about but you have hit the wall, as we often say when talking about running. As with running there is always a hit the wall moment in anything you do, even in things you are passionate about. If I am being open and honest then for me it was last year. I love teaching and working with High School students, but at the end of last school year I hit a huge wall and lost my passion. I spent the last couple of months frustrated, wanting to quit and I almost did several times. When the summer hit I was going to be starting going back to school as a move to become a teacher, but with my state of mind I was looking more at taking school to change career paths. I applied for a student loan and made plans to only work at the school part-time. I prayed about it and when my student loan fell through my plans had to change, so the question was do I find other work or go back to the school full-time. I decided to trust God (I know, duh right) that he had given me the passion of working with students and though didn’t feel it at the time. The school had full-time work for me and so I started back in September. I was very tentative going in because of the lack of passion I felt, but when the school year started, as with a runner who pushes through the feeling of hitting a wall, I felt a renewed passion and energy. So if it was something you were passionate about, try to push through (and pray) and you may find your passion renewed on the other side.
Before I begin I will admit I have not dealt with this often in my life. I was the type of child who could play quite easily by themselves, but I think all of us hit this point at some time in our lives. When you don’t really feel like doing anything you could do and don’t see anything else to do. My recommendation for anyone reaching this point in their lives is that they should look for a challenge, look for something that makes your heart race (that you are passionate for). We as humans often flourish in ways we couldn’t have imagined when we were bored. Seek God, He has great things for you to be involved in (Eph 2:10). Jesus himself that he came so we can have an abundant life, a life filled with purpose.